Syd, Kayla, Lauren, Mom, and me cheesin’
Congratulations Kyle & Lauryn!
(I was obsessed!) Collage by me 😉
Me at 25, and Sydney was a few months old; I turned 50 in April!
I know… You thought I was in my 30s (true story!!)… God bless you. There’s something special for you in the mail. But in all seriousness, I want you to be okay with being single. I want it to be the best years of your life, so that if your husband comes along, you will have to think long and hard if you really want to give up your sweet singleness and the peace that comes with it.
In the pandemic, God called me to do an event called Quarantine Sex Woes: A Path to Sexual Purity. Some of you were there! For three nights, we gathered virtually for teaching, sisterhood transparency, and love. It was historic!!
Today, I’m extending another invitation. And this time, we’re doing more!
Over the last few months, some of you have opened up to me about compromising and being in moments of great temptation. (Thank you for trusting me with your heart.) You are not alone. It’s the summer, and increased activity of Boo-ness is on the rise, as well as engagements and weddings. I smile and admire all the cute couples while also desiring it.
My daughter went to a high school friend’s bridal shower in June, and then we attended the wedding a few weeks ago. I was so honored to be there. A few others and I were on the “Amen!” row as the preacher was talking about marriage and its design. The vows were so beautiful, godly, and kingdom-filled. Praise God! You could tell they got their premarital work in 😉 I’m not surprised, because she and her twin sister are both active in the Young Adult Ministry at their church. Yes! Lauryn is a twin, and she and her sister got engaged months apart (not planned!). Of course they did—I think it’s a womb-sharing thing, haha! So we’ll be at Kayla’s wedding in October! Aren’t they the cutest? And clearly you see where they got it from with their gorgeous mom.
After I watched the IG videos, that devil tried to sneak in… “They were kids when you knew them, and now they’re 25-year-old women getting married, and you’re still not.” I was like “God, really? What is up?!?” Then, I had to snap myself back. I was happy I didn’t marry those who wanted to marry me or thought about it over the decades… none of em! And I mean that, haha! It would have been a mess! The contenders ranged from them not being ready, unhealed trauma, liars and manipulators, drug dealers, and misogynists. And I wasn’t ready either—I had my stuff. I was so naive on a lot of fronts, I didn’t know the first thing about a godly marriage, why God created it, what my role was supposed to be as a wife, and most importantly, I didn’t know who I was—let alone my purpose. The fact that these young people are getting married is awesome when so many are doing the opposite, including shacking up, like I did when I was eight months pregnant until Sydney was two years old. I’ll tell you one thing: I think if at 25, I would have found out I would still not be married at 50, I would have MADE something happen by now, lol. I probably would have been depressed too—think about it. I’m sure some of you can relate. And that’s exactly why God can’t show us everything 😉 But thank God for being freed from old thought patterns as well as old Boo’s. HALLELUJAH!
Sydney and the gorgeous bride!
Introducing the Sweet Surrender™ Program & Crew, a group of women who believe that our bodies are sacred and we don’t want to settle for just any ol’ relationship—we want what God wants and who God wants for us. In this hookup culture (and I’ve been there), there’s A LOT of foolishness, but we believe that God is in control and we trust that He knows what’s best for us in every area of our lives, so we surrender it ALL to Him without hesitation or fear. We are committed to being ALL that He has called us to be in the world. And to be all He has called us to be, we must eliminate distractions, and sex is one of those things. Whether you’ve never had a sexual experience, been abstaining from sex for 20 minutes or 20 years, join us for teachings, discussions, outings, and, of course, accountability (Yay!). We need you to complete our crew. If you’re intrigued, you’re welcome too.
Here are a few of the components:
🍭Sweet Time with Him™ aka PRAYER & QUIET TIME
🍭Sweet Spot Talks™ aka DISCUSSIONS (with a little teaching)
🍭Sweetness Check™ aka ACCOUNTABILITY
🍭Sweet Excursions™ aka OUTINGS
Don’t worry, you won’t get any cavities with this crew! Reply “I sweetly surrender” to this email to join the Sweet Surrender™ Program & Crew.
Being a part of the crew doesn’t mean you’ll never think about sex or want it (that’s unrealistic). One of our goals is that the thoughts won’t dominate your life because that’s unhealthy and causes us to panic and reach out and “touch… (we’ll go with) somebody’s hand. When the thoughts start to dominate, then you start compromising, and then, you’re in a situation. There are so many other things that require our attention, like our purpose, sisterhood, our God-given femininity, and our sweet children and grands (we’re claiming it, haha!), just to name a few. You are NOT alone in your feelings, desires, or struggles. Are you willing to try something different? Are you ready to sweetly surrender?
I lie to you not: I am happy and fulfilled—as a single. That’s largely because I’m knee-deep in my God-given assignment. Contentment seems to be missing in a lot of conversations. I want that for you if you’re not. I want to share secrets to successfully navigate this journey of singleness—in some cases, prolonged singleness—and we want to hear about your journey too.
Come into the Sweet Surrender™—the place where God dwells. He wants to do something extra sweet just for you.
Our first Sweet Excursion™ is happening on Saturday, September 6th @ 10am! My church is having a Sanc-TEA-fied (get it? Sanc-ti-fied) Tea Party where we can decorate our table and bring our favorite tea. Do you want to sit at our table? There are 10 spots. If so, please email the words “tea party.” Please respond by Sunday so I can register us. Those who are out of town, you can gather ladies and do it too. It’s going to be so fun and refreshing!
I hope you’ll join us! The Sweet Surrender™ Crew will be housed in the Drama Dropouts FB Group.
I can’t wait to hear from you!
With the sweet love of Christ,
Kenya