We’ve all been there.
Were there other factors that led to him saying no? Probably so. But the fact remained: he got the goods, had “fun,” and walked away.
I want so much more for us.
In the summer, I launched Sweet Surrender™, a community of women who believe that our bodies are sacred and we don’t want to settle for just any ol’ relationship—we want what God wants and who God wants for us. In this hookup culture (and I’ve been there too), there’s A LOT of foolishness, but we believe that God is in control and we trust that He knows what’s best for us in every area of our lives, so we surrender it ALL to Him without hesitation or fear. We are committed to being ALL that He has called us to be in the world. And to be all He has called us to be, we must eliminate distractions, and sex is one of those things. Whether you’ve never had a sexual experience, been abstaining from sex for 20 minutes or 20 years, join us for teachings, discussions, outings, and, of course, accountability (Yay!). We need you to complete our crew. If you’re intrigued, you’re welcome too.
We’ll be meeting for our first virtual Sweet Spot Talks™ on Wednesday, November 12th at 7 p.m. ET! To join the crew and or the discussion, email me and type, “I sweetly surrender.”
As I said in the summer, being a part of the crew doesn’t mean you’ll never think about sex or want it (that’s unrealistic). One of our goals is that the thoughts won’t dominate your life because that’s unhealthy and causes us to panic and reach out and “touch… (we’ll go with) somebody’s hand. When the thoughts start to dominate, then you start compromising, and then you’re in a situation. There are so many other things that require our attention, like our purpose, fulfilling sisterhood, our God-given femininity, and our sweet children and grands, just to name a few.
You are NOT alone in your feelings, desires, or struggles. Are you willing to try something different? Are you ready to sweetly surrender? Are you willing to be held accountable?
Let’s share our successes and struggles to help each other successfully navigate this journey of singleness—in some cases, prolonged singleness.
Come into the Sweet Surrender™—the place where God dwells.
He wants to do something extra sweet just for you.
Also, our next Sweet Excursion™ is happening on Saturday, December 6th! We’ll hear an encouraging word and have brunch afterwards in the DMV. It’s going to be so much fun! If you want to hang, hit reply and type “I sweetly surrender” for more details. (If you’ve already expressed interest in the Sweet Surrender™ Crew, your response has been recorded. Thank you!)
For those who are out of town, you can gather ladies together too.
Nobody but the Holy Spirit can put together something as sweet as this. Remember, if you want God’s fruit, you have to do it His way.
Ladies, it’s time for some transparent talk! Let’s get real about abstaining, healing, and living sweetly surrendered lives with pure hearts — can’t wait to see you there!
The Sweet Surrender™ Crew will be housed in the Drama Dropouts FB Group.
Stay sweet!
Kenya
George Michael’s song, “I Want Your Sex,” put it ALL out there in the 80s. And it’s still the same today. You can tell when somebody wants sex versus you: a lustful look, a touch, an invite to the house, a 1 a.m. text, inappropriate conversations, GIFs or memes, and more. The signs are there, but are we paying attention? And sometimes, we’re leading with sex.
Image from VEVO: George Michael’s “I Want Your Sex” music video
I was watching a show where a guy and a girl met face-to-face for the first time after a period of bonding. He was complimenting her and said, “And when I saw you…” He didn’t even finish his sentence before she jumped up and said, “You wanna see a little more?!?” She had her back profile facing him, pacing to the right and left, doing her best booty poses from all angles in her backless dress. He was very appreciative with his eyes gluuued to her bottom. “Oh my… Wooo… Wow… Woow,” he gasped. A little later, she made a comment about how she’s “got back” (another butt reference). He confirmed. She was giggling, but I wasn’t—I was cringing.
What was she doing in that moment? She was leading with all the wrong things: her body. She was putting her worth in a body part—in this case, her derrière. That told me everything; she didn’t think he could like her for her, but in a desperate attempt to keep his attention (or perhaps seal the deal), she brought attention to the size of her rump. Now, let’s be clear… girlfriend had a body for days—she was beautiful! But did she know her worth? Did she know she had so much more to offer a man than her body? Did she know how to lead with character… her mind… her inner beauty?
As if it couldn’t get any worse, the camera then cuts to a solo interview of the young man to get his opinion on their meeting. He was all smiles as he talked about their future babies and then said, ”… beautiful face, crazy body… Ima have some fun… Ima have some fun.” His body language told the world what kind of fun.
“Fun,” he did have… the “fun” they both had…
Until it wasn’t fun anymore. When it was time to take the relationship to the next level, she was all in, but he opted out. He was excited at the beginning, and they both met each other’s families and friends, and spent a lot of time together. However, when it came time to make a decision, he said no.
I don’t have to tell you how devastated she was.
